We don't begin to know ourselves until we face situations which make us change, even if the change is painful.. It's not until we have had lost all hope and had to gather the strength to get back up again that we begin to transform... Suffering is like water that softens up the hard clay, makes it malleable and adapts to any shape... It makes us understand which otherwise cannot be understood, makes us understand what love, compassion, humility is all about.. suffering is the darkness that serves the purpose of giving a meaning to light..